Part II: You Really Do Need a Backup Plan

The only reason I knew about the hurricane is because the hotel had the weather channel on in the hotel lobby.

Luckily, months before I had given into my instincts and decided to be more open about the back-up plan. It was important that everyone’s time, money, and energy not go to waste. We wanted to honor our guests by protecting our special day as best we could. Also, discussing the worst-case scenarios with my planners and knowing that they were prepared for the unexpected made me feel more confident.

Feeling self-assured was an especially helpful state of mind to be in when I overheard the bits about the hurricane. Luckily, through the magic of our ancestors, the weather held and there was neither a drop of rain nor hint of wind. The lighting was complex and perfect. It totally matched the tone of our venue and the photographs were ethereal, sultry, and classic – truly capturing our happiness ‘sigh.’

In retrospect, I realized that thinking of a back-up plan is a natural and really necessary part of planning. It makes sense to seek comfort in those things that will ensure your wedding happens no matter what. As they say in the theater, "the show must go on!"

A Few Tips for Planning Your Wedding

While you’re planning your wedding it may seem that everything around you somehow relates to the upcoming special day. Whether it be a commercial or some conversation that you overhear at Starbucks, you start to imagine how the wedding day will go, infused by images of things that you particularly feel strongly about like décor, the wedding dress, the cake, the venue location and more.

If you are trying to develop your vision of the big day, but don’t know where to begin, try these tips to help you on your way!

1. Start with your favorites spots. You and your fiancé should revisit some shared favorite places, like a restaurant, park, or even a movie theater. Just pick places where you love to go and write down or talk about why you love that place so much. Not only will this help you think about what kind of venue you want to have, but the tone and style that you want to achieve.

2. Consult with an expert. You probably want to bounce your ideas off of an impartial party or need help to extract and combine your particular tastes. You may discover that when you talk with a wedding consultant that the impossible may be possible with a bit of creativity.

3. Look through old and new photographs. If your family is involved in planning your guest list, then you could suggest sitting down with photographs to determine the guest list. You may not have pictures of everyone that you want to invite, but it’s a good start to know who matters most to your family. Looking through photos is a good refresher for everyone about your guests' names, especially if the list is long!

Photo by bea29sm, sxc.hu

Bride-to-Bride Part I: You Really Do Need a Backup Plan

Ah, there I am on the day before I am married, the anxious and extremely happy bride-to-be. The day of the wedding rehearsal was gorgeous and sunny, how I envisioned that every day would be in May, especially on our wedding day.

I had planned every detail of my wedding and still hired event planners. We were having a destination wedding and I was living in London at the time. I remember our discussion with Julie (one of the event planners) about having a back-up plan. I also remember completely humming "la,la,la,la" in my head about the topic too. The day would be perfect no matter what, so why was she trying to rain on my parade?

At the time, I didn't realize the importance of our conversation. I was a super organized bride, who knew exactly what she wanted and wanted NOTHING to do with the back-up plan ... at first. Who would've thought a hurricane would come through the state on my wedding day?

Weddings at the Shadowbrook

Sara's & Terrance's wedding in January 09 @ the Shadowbrook

Victoria's & Chris's wedding in June 2008 @ the Shadowbrook

January 09 Wedding Highlights

Congratulations Joan and Samy!